• Tinukè Olatunbosun

Love

What is Love? According to the old English dictionary “Love is a strong feeling of affection”. However in the 21st century people’s views of what they believe love is differs from one person to another.


Is there a right time to tell your partner you love them?

Everyone falls in love at different stages. If there was a fixed time in which to fall in love it wouldn’t be such a unique experience. My personal opinion is 'NO' there is not a right time to tell your partner you love them, only you know when that time is.


People often reach a point were they believe they are ready to say "I love you", but they are often scared to be the first to say it or they fear the other person will not say it back; which is understandable.


However, what one should consider is, firstly, the other person may also want to say I love you but out of fear, like yourself, that you may not feel the same. Secondly, in regards to fear of ones partner not saying it back, although it would be disheartening remember again that people love and feel things at different times.


One needs to also understand that it is better a partner does not say ‘I love you too’ just to make you happy, and that they actually say it at a time were they genuinely mean it.

I honestly cannot remember who said I love you first in terms of my relationship. I just know that at one point we both said it. However I can say that I realised I loved him way before I actually decided to express it to him. This was mainly due to the fact that I wanted to be absolutely sure I meant what I was saying. Love for me is so meaningful and not a word that should be used loosely.


How do you know you're in love? This is a question many ask, and I could not possibly answer that question as many people have different perceptions of what they believe love is. Personally for me love is unconditional, loving a partner regardless of their flaws and helping to build them up always. Love is also considering a partners feelings in all you do.


That is just a brief insight into my views on love, the list could go on but I would love to know your views on love

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