• Tinukè Olatunbosun

Public Display of Affection (PDA)

Every time I’m on the train I end up sitting next to a couple having a full on snog. In my mind I'm like 'great! Go for it, but please not when I’m sitting right next to you'. Main reason being that it’s awkward, I genuinely do not know we’re to look.


Okay, so I hold hands and have the occasional peck and cuddle when I’m out on a date with my partner nothing over the top, but some couples just really go for it. I’m talking full on snogging with tongues intertwined and inappropriate groping (ewww).


Don’t get me wrong it's great that these couples are so affectionate towards one and other and want to show it, but their is a time and a place. I understand that when you love someone you may want the world to know and therefore you find it hard to refrain from physical intimacy, but their are definitely more appropriate settings were this can be done, instead of public transport, parks and restaurants for example.


PDA does not show the measurement of love you have for a person. These acts of intimacy simply draw attention to the couple, which for some people may be the aim. This could also be perceived as seeking outside acknowledgment.


To sum this up, my personal opinion is that people definitely express love in different ways. However when out in public this should be displayed in moderation. one should always be aware that not everyone wants to see too much affection as it tends to make by standers feel uncomfortable. 


On the other hand it is a personal preference and no one can judge a person for choosing to physically express their love publicly.


Lastly PDA definitely does not make a relationship stronger. Some people would simply share some types of affection with their partner in private like myself rather than for all to see.


I would love to know your opinion on this topic, how much PDA is too much?

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